How to Marry 2 Sims in Sims 4: Your Comprehensive Guide to Love and Nuptials

To marry two Sims in Sims 4, you primarily need to build their Romance and Friendship levels to a very high degree, then use the “Propose” romantic interaction. Once accepted, you can either “Elope” immediately or plan a more elaborate “Wedding Event” via the phone to formalize their union with guests, a ceremony, and a wedding cake.

Oh, the joys and sometimes comical frustrations of playing matchmaker in The Sims 4! I remember one time, I was trying to get my two favorite Sims, Bella and Mortimer Goth (yes, I often restart their story!), to tie the knot. I had them flirting up a storm, gazing into each other’s eyes, and whispering sweet nothings. The romance bar was practically bursting, and they were the best of friends. I thought, “This is it! Time for Mortimer to pop the question.” He was feeling confident, she was feeling flirty – perfect! I clicked on Bella, navigated to the romantic interactions, and there it was: “Propose.” My heart literally fluttered, just like a proud parent. He got down on one knee, presented a dazzling ring (which, let’s be honest, I bought with some quick money cheats earlier), and… she squealed with delight, jumping into his arms! Success! But that was just the engagement. Then came the decision: a quick elopement or a grand wedding? This entire process, from that first flirt to the final “I do,” can be incredibly rewarding, and sometimes, a little baffling. So, if you’re wondering

how to marry 2 Sims in Sims 4 and ensure their journey to wedded bliss is as smooth as possible, you’ve come to the right place. Let’s walk through every step, from the first spark to the wedding bells, making sure your Sims get their happily ever after.

The Foundation of Forever: Building Romance and Friendship

Before any wedding bells can chime, your Sims need to genuinely like and love each other. The Sims 4 relationship system relies on two distinct bars: Friendship (green) and Romance (pink). While it might seem intuitive to just focus on the pink bar for marriage, having a strong green bar, signifying a deep friendship, is actually crucial for a stable, lasting relationship and a higher chance of a successful proposal. My own experience has shown that Sims with high romance but low friendship tend to have more turbulent relationships, often leading to rejections or even breakups down the line.

Initial Interactions: From Strangers to Sweethearts

When two Sims first meet, they start as “acquaintances.” Your goal is to move them up the relationship ladder. Start with friendly interactions to build the green bar. These include things like:

Introductions: Say Hello, Introduce Self.
Socials: Ask About Day, Tell Joke, Compliment.
Deepening Bonds: Get to Know, Ask about Career/Interests.

Once they’re at least “Friends” or “Good Friends,” you can start weaving in romantic interactions. Don’t go straight for the jugular with a full-on kiss! That often leads to embarrassment and a hit to the relationship. Think of it like real life; you wouldn’t propose on the first date, right?

Key Romantic Interactions to Cultivate Love

Gradually introduce romantic interactions. The key is to watch the reaction of the other Sim. If they blush and smile, you’re on the right track. If they look uncomfortable, back off with the romance and switch back to friendly interactions for a bit.

Flirt: This is your bread and butter. It’s low-risk and gently raises the romance bar. Try a few of these first.
Compliment Appearance: A good way to transition from friendly to romantic without being too forward.
Hold Hands / Caress: Physical touch, but still fairly innocent.
Kiss: Once the romance bar is somewhat established, a kiss is a natural next step. There are different types: Quick Kiss, Passionate Kiss, First Kiss (if applicable).
Confess Attraction: This is a slightly bolder move that can significantly boost romance.
Ask to Be Girlfriend/Boyfriend (Go Steady): This is a major milestone! It formally establishes them as a couple. This interaction usually appears once the romance bar is around 40-50% full. Successfully asking them to go steady will grant a positive moodlet and unlock further romantic interactions.
WooHoo/Try for Baby: While not strictly necessary for marriage, WooHoo is a strong romantic interaction that often appears once Sims are “Partners” or “Sweethearts” and can rapidly increase the romance bar.

Keep an eye on their moodlets! If your Sim is “Flirty,” their romantic interactions have a higher success rate. Sending them to a romantic venue, playing romantic music, or having them around romantic decor can all contribute to a flirty mood. Conversely, if a Sim is “Uncomfortable” or “Embarrassed,” it’s best to avoid romantic advances until their mood improves.

Relationship Levels and What They Mean for Marriage

As your Sims interact, their relationship will evolve through different stages:

Acquaintances: Just met.
Friends / Good Friends / Best Friends: High green bar. Great for building the foundation.
Love Interest: Early stages of romance.
Sweethearts / Partners: These indicate a significant romantic bond. Usually, one of these states is achieved after successfully asking a Sim to “Go Steady.” At this point, marriage is definitely on the horizon.

For a successful proposal, you want both the friendship and romance bars to be quite high, ideally nearing full, and for their relationship status to be “Sweethearts” or “Partners.”

Taking the Plunge: The Engagement

The engagement is the penultimate step before marriage. This is where one Sim formally asks the other for their hand. It’s a big moment!

When to Propose: Timing is Everything

My advice? Don’t rush it. Wait until both the green (friendship) and pink (romance) bars are almost completely full. This significantly increases the chances of a “Yes!”

Also, consider the proposer’s mood. A “Confident” or “Flirty” mood gives a huge boost to the success rate of romantic interactions, including proposals. You can achieve this by:

Confident: Brushing teeth (Confident moodlet), Pep Talk in a mirror, certain aspirations.
Flirty: Taking a Steamy Shower, using romantic decor, eating certain foods (like Chocolate Covered Strawberries from the ‘Dine Out’ pack), listening to romantic music.

Avoid proposing if either Sim is in a negative mood like “Angry,” “Sad,” “Embarrassed,” or “Uncomfortable.” A proposal in these states is almost guaranteed to fail, potentially causing a relationship setback.

The “Propose” Interaction

When the time is right, click on the Sim you want to propose to. Navigate to the “Romantic” category of interactions. If their relationship is strong enough, you’ll see “Propose” (or “Propose Marriage” if you have certain packs). Click it!

Your Sim will get down on one knee and present a ring. The camera will often zoom in for this momentous occasion. The other Sim will react. If it’s a “Yes,” they’ll usually jump into the proposer’s arms, cheer, and both will receive a positive “Engaged” moodlet. Their relationship status will change to “Fiancé.” Congratulations!

What if They Say No? Dealing with Rejection

It happens. A rejected proposal is a bummer, but not the end of the world. It usually means either the relationship bars weren’t high enough, or one of the Sims was in a bad mood. If your Sim gets rejected:

Don’t Panic: The relationship will take a hit, but it’s often recoverable.
Switch to Friendly Interactions: Immediately try to smooth things over with friendly conversation. Apologize, comfort them.
Rebuild Romance: Once the initial awkwardness subsides, slowly start building the romance bar again. It might take a bit longer this time, but it’s definitely possible.
Check Moods: Ensure both Sims are in good spirits before trying again.

The Ring: A Symbol of Commitment

When your Sim proposes, they will automatically produce a ring. You don’t need to explicitly buy one beforehand from the catalog, which is a nice convenience. However, if you want your Sim to *wear* an engagement ring or wedding band after the proposal, you’ll need to go into Create-A-Sim (CAS) to select one for them from the accessories section. They don’t automatically appear on their hand in gameplay, which is a little quirk of The Sims 4 I’ve always found interesting.

The Big Day: Planning the Wedding (or Not)

Once your Sims are engaged, you have a couple of options for making it official: a quick elopement or a grand wedding ceremony. Both have their pros and cons, and I’ve tried both many times depending on my Sims’ personalities and my gameplay goals.

Option 1: The Quick and Dirty Elopement

Sometimes, your Sims are just too in love to wait for a party, or maybe you’re just not in the mood for the stress of event planning (and let’s be real, Sims 4 events can be a little stressful!). Eloping is the perfect solution for this.

How to Eloope:

Click on the engaged Sim you want your active Sim to marry. Under the “Romantic” category, you’ll see the “Elope” interaction. Select it, and they will immediately perform a quick, private ceremony. They’ll stand together, perhaps exchange a quick kiss, and suddenly, they’re married! Their relationship status changes to “Husband” or “Wife,” and they’ll get the positive “Just Married” moodlet.

Pros of Eloping:

Instant Gratification: No waiting, no planning, no fuss.
No Stress: You don’t have to worry about guests, caterers, or event goals.
Intimate: Perfect for Sims who are shy or prefer a private affair.
Cost-Effective: No wedding expenses beyond maybe a fancy outfit.

Cons of Eloping:

No Party: You miss out on the fun of a wedding event.
No Gifts: Guests at a wedding event sometimes leave gifts, which you won’t get.
No Traditional Ceremony: If you love the idea of an aisle, an arch, and guests, eloping won’t provide that.

I often have my Sims elope if I’m doing a challenge or just want to quickly progress their story without getting bogged down in event management. It’s a perfectly valid and charming way to get hitched.

Option 2: The Grand Wedding Event

If you’re like me and love to stage elaborate events for your Sims, a formal wedding ceremony is the way to go. This allows you to invite guests, hire staff, and achieve specific goals for a memorable event.

Planning the Wedding Event:

Open the Phone: Click on your Sim’s phone icon in the bottom left corner.
Plan a Social Event: Select the “Plan a Social Event” option.
Choose “Wedding”: From the list of event types, select “Wedding.”
Select Venue: You can host the wedding at your home lot or a community lot. Community lots like parks, museums, or even a fancy restaurant (if you have the Dine Out pack) can make for beautiful backdrops.
Choose Hosts: Select which Sims will be the hosts (usually the engaged couple).
Invite Guests: Pick Sims from your contact list to invite. You can invite up to 15 Sims, including the couple.
Hire Staff (Optional but Recommended):

Caterer: Essential for food and cake.
Mixologist: Keeps the drinks flowing at the bar.
Musician: Provides background music for ambiance.

Set the Time: Choose when the event will start.
Start Event: Once everything is set, confirm, and the event will begin!

Essential Wedding Items and Decorations:

To make your wedding look and feel like a real celebration, consider these items, all found in Build/Buy mode:

Wedding Arch: This is the most crucial item. Your Sims need a wedding arch to perform the “Get Married” interaction. Place it wherever you want them to say their vows.
Wedding Cake: A must-have for the “Cut Cake” and “Eat Cake” goals. Place it on a surface (like a table) to be accessible. You can buy pre-made cakes or bake one yourself.
Chairs: Place chairs around the arch for guests to sit during the ceremony. This is an event goal!
Aisle Runner: Adds a touch of elegance leading up to the arch.
Flowers & Decor: Use flowers, candles, string lights, and other decorative items to create a romantic atmosphere.
Microphone (Optional): For toasts.
Bar (Optional): If you hired a mixologist.
Speaker (Optional): For music if you don’t have a live musician.

My personal touch is always to over-decorate! String lights, a ton of flowers, and a beautifully arranged table for the cake make such a difference. I also make sure there are plenty of seating options, because Sims love to stand around, but the game wants them to sit!

Wedding Event Goals and Medals

During the wedding event, a pop-up in the top left corner will display a list of goals. Completing these goals earns you points, which determine if your event gets a Bronze, Silver, or Gold medal. Gold events often come with better rewards!

Common Wedding Goals:

Get Married: The ultimate goal! Click on the wedding arch with one of the engaged Sims, and select “Get Married To…”
Have Guests Sit: Ensure you have enough chairs near the arch. You might need to direct Sims to “Sit” if they’re being stubborn.
Have Guests Drink: Provide a bar with a mixologist or pre-made drinks.
Have Guests Eat: A caterer or pre-made food stations will handle this.
Cut Cake / Eat Cake: Click on the wedding cake.
Give Toasts: Have a Sim click on another Sim and select a toast interaction.
First Dance: Have the married couple dance together.
Talk with X Number of Guests: Encourage socializing.

Achieving a Gold medal isn’t just for bragging rights; it usually grants you unique reward objects or boosts to your Sims’ relationship with the guests. I always aim for gold, even if it means micromanaging my Sims a bit to make sure they’re doing all the necessary interactions!

Troubleshooting Common Wedding Issues

Wedding events in Sims 4 can sometimes be a bit… finicky. Here are some common problems I’ve encountered and how I usually deal with them:

Guests Aren’t Arriving: Make sure the event time has started. Sometimes Sims just take a while. If they don’t show up after a while, they might be stuck somewhere or unable to path to the lot.
Sims Won’t Sit for the Ceremony: This is a classic. I usually pause the game, click on each guest, and direct them to “Sit Here” on a specific chair near the arch.
Caterer Isn’t Cooking / Mixologist Isn’t Making Drinks: Check if they have access to a counter, oven, fridge, and bar. Sometimes placing these items too far apart or in an inaccessible spot can cause issues. I’ve also found that sometimes they just need a nudge; cancel their current action and re-queue “Make a Grand Meal” or “Tend Bar.”
“Get Married” Interaction Isn’t Appearing: Ensure both Sims are actually engaged and that there’s a wedding arch placed on the lot. Sometimes having too many Sims around the arch can also make it hard to click on it correctly.
Sims Are Getting Distracted: Weddings are social events, and Sims love to wander off and chat! Try to keep essential items (arch, cake, bar) relatively close together to minimize wandering.
My Wedding Stories Pack Glitches: If you own the ‘My Wedding Stories’ Game Pack, be aware that it had a very buggy launch. While many issues have been patched, some players still report difficulties. Focus on the base game mechanics for the core wedding interactions, and if using pack features, save frequently and be prepared for potential quirks.

Post-Wedding Bliss: Married Life

Once your Sims have exchanged vows, their journey as a married couple truly begins! Their relationship status will change to “Husband” and “Wife” (or “Spouse,” depending on their gender identity). They’ll receive a happy “Just Married!” moodlet, which lasts for several days.

Living Together: The Next Step

If your newly married Sims weren’t living together already, the game will prompt you to move one into the other’s household. This is a crucial step for married life. You can also manually manage households through the “Manage Worlds” option on the main menu.

Living together unlocks new interactions and relationship dynamics. They’ll share a home, a bed, and all the daily joys and challenges that come with cohabitation.

Married Life Interactions

Being married opens up new romantic and friendly interactions:

Deep Hugs & Kisses: More intimate displays of affection.
Private Jokes: Shows their shared history and closeness.
“Try for Baby”: If you want them to expand their family (requires a good relationship).
Compliment Spouse: Simple but effective for maintaining the relationship.

Remember that relationships still require maintenance. Don’t neglect their needs or their relationship! Regular positive interactions are key to keeping that romance and friendship strong. Jealousy can also become a factor if one Sim flirts with another in front of their spouse, so be mindful of that if you want a harmonious marriage.

Family Aspirations

Many aspirations revolve around family and relationships. If your Sims have the “Soulmate” or “Successful Lineage” aspiration, getting married and maintaining a strong relationship will help them complete these goals and earn valuable reward traits.

Advanced Tips and Tricks for a Perfect Union

To really elevate your Sims’ journey to marriage, consider these more nuanced aspects:

Mood Management is King: I cannot stress this enough. A confident Sim proposing to a flirty Sim is almost guaranteed success. Always prioritize happy, positive emotions for big romantic moments.
Lot Traits: If you’re building a special wedding venue or a romantic home, consider using lot traits. The “Romantic Aura” lot trait, for example, makes all Sims on the lot more flirty. This can be fantastic for a proposal or a wedding!
Aspirations that Help: The “Serial Romantic” and “Soulmate” aspirations both have goals related to romantic relationships and marriage. Pursuing these can naturally guide your Sim towards wedded bliss while earning them reward points.
Packs that Enhance: While the base game provides everything you need for a marriage, certain packs add extra flair. ‘My Wedding Stories’ (as mentioned, with caution) adds specific wedding venues and planning options. ‘Dine Out’ allows for romantic restaurant dates and weddings. ‘Romantic Garden Stuff’ offers beautiful romantic objects like the wishing well and the whispering wishing tree.
Relationship Cheats (Use Sparingly!): If you’re really struggling to build a relationship or just want to quickly get to the wedding part for a story, you can use cheats. Open the cheat console (Ctrl+Shift+C) and type `testingcheats true`. Then, use `modifyrelationship 100 LTR_Romance_Main` to max out romance, and `modifyrelationship 100 LTR_Friendship_Main` to max out friendship. I use these mostly for storytelling purposes when I don’t want to grind relationships.

Troubleshooting Common Issues on the Path to Marriage

Even with the best intentions, your Sims’ love story might hit a snag. Here’s how to tackle some frequent problems:

“My Sims Won’t Propose/Get Married!”

This is probably the most common complaint. If your Sims are hesitant, double-check these:

Relationship Bars: Are both the green (friendship) and pink (romance) bars nearly full? If not, keep building them up with friendly and romantic interactions.
Relationship Status: Are they officially “Sweethearts” or “Partners” (having gone steady)? The proposal option usually only appears at this stage.
Moods: Is either Sim in a negative mood? If so, wait for them to get happy, flirty, or confident before trying. Negative moods can block romantic interactions.
Interaction Availability: Sometimes, having too many Sims around, or being in a very crowded spot, can prevent interaction options from appearing. Try moving them to a more private area.
Wedding Arch for Ceremony: If you’re trying to marry them in a ceremony, ensure there’s a placed wedding arch on the lot and it’s accessible.

“My Wedding Event is a Disaster!”

Wedding events can be tricky to manage. Here’s what to do if things go awry:

Guests Not Participating: This is a classic. Guests often wander. Directly command your Sims to perform the required actions (e.g., “Cut Cake,” “Get Married”). For guests sitting, pause, click each guest, and use “Sit Here.”
Staff Not Working: Sometimes caterers or mixologists get distracted. Click on them and re-queue their work-related interactions. Ensure their workstations (kitchen, bar) are fully equipped and accessible.
Sims Are Sad/Angry: A bad mood can spoil the fun. Try to quickly cheer them up with positive interactions or by sending them to a “Happy” emotional aura room if you have one. If a guest is being particularly difficult, you can send them home (though this might hurt the event score).
Game Glitches: If the event is genuinely stuck, try saving the game, exiting to the main menu, and reloading. Sometimes this “resets” the event logic.

“My Sim’s Relationship Just Went Sour!”

Even after marriage, relationships can decline. If your Sims are constantly fighting or their bars are plummeting:

Check Needs: Are they chronically tired, hungry, or bored? Unfulfilled needs often lead to negative moods and arguments.
Lack of Interaction: Just like real life, if Sims don’t interact positively, their relationship will decay. Make sure they have regular friendly and romantic interactions.
Jealousy: If one Sim flirts with another while their spouse is nearby, jealousy can erupt, causing a significant relationship hit. Be careful with those wandering eyes!
Conflicting Traits: Some traits (like “Mean,” “Hot-Headed,” “Noncommittal”) can make relationships harder to maintain. Adjust your playstyle accordingly, or try to balance them with more positive traits.

Frequently Asked Questions About Sims 4 Marriage

Can Sims of the same sex marry in The Sims 4?

Absolutely! The Sims 4 has always been wonderfully inclusive. Sims of any gender identity can marry each other, reflecting real-world diversity. The game treats same-sex and opposite-sex relationships identically, meaning the process for building romance, proposing, and marrying is exactly the same.

This commitment to inclusivity is a core part of the Sims franchise, and it means you can tell any love story you wish without arbitrary restrictions. Whether it’s two women, two men, or any combination, your Sims can find their happily ever after with whomever they choose.

Do Sims have to live together before marrying?

No, Sims do not have to live together before getting married. They can live in separate households right up until the wedding. However, once they are officially married, the game will prompt you to move one Sim into the other’s household, or you can merge their households manually through the “Manage Worlds” option.

While not required, having Sims live together before marriage can be a fun way to test their compatibility and see if they can handle daily life side-by-side. It can also help build their relationship more quickly as they’re always in the same place.

Can you marry NPCs (Non-Player Characters)?

Yes, you can absolutely marry NPCs in The Sims 4! Any Sim in your game world, whether they’re a townie, a vendor, or a Sim that spawned for an event, can be romanced and married. The process is identical: build up their friendship and romance bars, propose, and then have a wedding or elopement.

Keep in mind that if an NPC has a specific role (like a bar owner or a librarian), marrying them won’t necessarily remove them from that role unless they move into your playable household and you stop them from going to work. Marrying NPCs is a great way to integrate them into your game and expand your family tree.

What happens if I don’t have a wedding arch for the ceremony?

If you’re planning a formal wedding event and you don’t place a wedding arch on the lot, your Sims simply won’t be able to perform the “Get Married” interaction. This means you won’t be able to complete one of the primary goals of the wedding event, and your Sims will likely only achieve a Bronze medal at best, or the event might simply fizzle out without the marriage actually happening.

The wedding arch is a functional object specifically coded for the marriage interaction. Without it, the game doesn’t recognize the proper “ceremony” setup. So, if you want a formal wedding, make sure that arch is present and accounted for!

Do I need a wedding cake?

While you don’t *strictly* need a wedding cake for your Sims to get married (they can elope without one), it is highly recommended if you’re planning a formal wedding event. One of the common goals for a wedding event is “Cut Cake” and “Eat Cake.” Without a cake, you won’t be able to complete these goals, which will impact your event’s medal rating.

A wedding cake also adds to the festive atmosphere and is a classic part of any wedding celebration. You can purchase one directly from Build/Buy mode or have a high-skill Sim bake one. Just remember to place it on a surface so your Sims can interact with it.

How many Sims can attend a wedding?

When planning a social event like a wedding in The Sims 4, you can invite up to 15 Sims as guests, in addition to the two Sims getting married. So, including the happy couple, you can have a total of 17 Sims present at your wedding event.

This number includes any staff you hire (caterer, mixologist, musician) if you count them as attendees. While 17 Sims might not seem like a huge crowd for a grand wedding, it’s generally enough to create a lively atmosphere and manage the event goals effectively without overwhelming your computer or yourself with too many Sims to track.

What’s the difference between eloping and a wedding ceremony?

The main difference lies in the formality, the event structure, and the presence of guests.

Eloping is an immediate, private marriage between two engaged Sims. You simply select the “Elope” interaction, and they’re married on the spot, wherever they are. There are no guests, no specific event goals, and no need for planning. It’s quick, simple, and perfect for Sims who prefer a low-key union or when you just want to move the story along quickly.

A Wedding Ceremony, on the other hand, is a formal social event that you plan via the phone. It allows you to invite guests, hire staff (caterer, mixologist, musician), choose a venue, and work towards specific event goals (like “Get Married,” “Cut Cake,” “Have Guests Sit”) to earn a medal (Bronze, Silver, Gold). This option provides a more traditional, celebratory experience with all the trimmings of a wedding party.

Can Sims get divorced?

Yes, unfortunately, not all love stories last forever, even in The Sims 4. Sims can absolutely get divorced. To do so, you’ll need to significantly lower their relationship bars. This can be done through negative interactions like “Fight,” “Argue,” “Be Mean,” or simply by neglecting their relationship. Once their relationship has decayed significantly, usually into the negative red zone for both friendship and romance, the “Break Up” or “Divorce” interaction will become available under the “Mean” or “Friendly” categories, depending on the severity of the relationship.

Divorce often comes with negative moodlets for both Sims, reflecting the sadness or anger of the situation. It will also reset their relationship bars, essentially sending them back to being strangers or acquaintances, often with a lingering negative sentiment. If they live together, you’ll also have to manage the household split.

Are there any special wedding-themed items in the game?

Yes, the base game includes several essential wedding-themed items in Build/Buy mode, primarily found under the “Party” or “Decorations” categories. The most important is the Wedding Arch, which is crucial for the “Get Married” interaction during a ceremony. You’ll also find various Wedding Cakes (or you can bake your own if your Sim has high cooking skill). Beyond that, you’ll find other festive decorations like balloons, string lights, flowers, and elegant furniture that can be used to create a beautiful wedding venue.

If you own the ‘My Wedding Stories’ Game Pack, it introduces a much wider array of wedding-specific items, including diverse wedding arches, aisle runners, reception tables, decorative floral arrangements, and more elaborate wedding attire, offering a deeper customization experience for the big day.

What mood is best for a proposal?

For a successful proposal in The Sims 4, the absolute best moods are Flirty for the Sim being proposed to, and Confident for the Sim doing the proposing. While a general “Happy” mood for both Sims is good, Flirty and Confident specifically boost the success rate of romantic interactions significantly.

A Flirty Sim is more receptive to romance, making them highly likely to accept a proposal. A Confident Sim is more likely to succeed in their romantic advances, minimizing the chance of rejection. You can achieve these moods through various means, like taking a steamy shower (Flirty), looking in a mirror for a pep talk (Confident), or using mood-boosting auras from objects.

My Sim keeps getting rejected, what gives?

If your Sim is repeatedly getting rejected when trying to propose, it’s usually due to a few common reasons. First, critically examine the relationship bars: is both the green (friendship) and pink (romance) bar nearly full? A strong foundation in both is key. If either is low, you need to spend more time building that connection.

Second, check the moods of both Sims. A Sim in a negative mood (Angry, Sad, Embarrassed, Uncomfortable) is highly likely to reject a proposal. Even if the proposing Sim is confident, a negative mood from the other Sim can override it. Make sure both are in positive, ideally romantic or confident, moods. Finally, ensure they are at least “Sweethearts” or “Partners” in their relationship status; if they’re still just “Love Interests,” it might be too soon.

Can I marry a ghost Sim?

Yes, you can absolutely marry a ghost Sim in The Sims 4! The process for romancing and marrying a ghost is exactly the same as marrying a living Sim. You’ll need to build up their friendship and romance bars through interactions, eventually propose, and then either elope or have a formal wedding ceremony.

Ghost Sims function as fully playable characters once they are added to your household, retaining their unique ghostly abilities and appearance, but they can still participate in all the social dynamics of the game, including marriage and even having children (with a living Sim, or sometimes through specific ghost mechanics if they possess the ‘My Wedding Stories’ pack, though this can be buggy).

Can my Sims have children after marriage?

Yes, marriage often leads to expanding the family in The Sims 4! Once your Sims are married, the “Try for Baby” interaction becomes readily available under the “Romantic” category when they interact with a bed, an observatory, or certain other objects. This interaction has a chance of leading to pregnancy and the arrival of a new Sim baby.

It’s important to note that Sims can “Try for Baby” even without being married, once they are in a deep romantic relationship (like Sweethearts or Partners). However, marriage often solidifies the partnership, making it a natural progression for many players who wish to start a family. The game doesn’t place any restrictions on same-sex couples having children either; they can adopt, or use ‘Try for Baby’ with a specific Sim if one Sim is capable of carrying a pregnancy.

Do my Sims automatically get each other’s last names?

When two Sims get married in The Sims 4, you will be prompted to choose a last name for the newly formed couple. You have a few options:

Keep the last name of the active Sim (the one you’re currently controlling).
Take the last name of the spouse.
Hyphenate both last names.
Create an entirely new, custom last name.

This choice gives you flexibility to decide how you want to manage their family name, maintaining realism or allowing for unique storytelling. This prompt appears immediately after the marriage is finalized, whether through eloping or a formal ceremony.

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